i love debates... (unbreakable vs. JCal456)

even more so... i love when i set one off...

when i posted this blog ... i didn't expect to get two very... very long responses off of them... and here are the two responses...


long ass response from Unbreakable.


"ummm listen i do agree with only one thing in this post, and its that being gay can modern day genocide.

simple explain two men cant reproduce.

Your saying that if it does not affect you,you should not care, that i don't agree with. I know there are tuns on thing that don't concern we at all that we talk about, whenever it come to race and sex there is a taboo.

Why cant we talk about it and share our view,if i or any other person don't support people view why cant they voice that,o but according to you we should say in our lane. This world we live in don't work like that, whatever you do affect someone else one way or the other.


So what would you do if someone one your family was gay? it would be cool to get out your so called lane!!!!!!


Whats i do believe is that people should be sensitive to other way of life. I don't support gay marriage. but it happened."

then we have the long ass response from JCal456.:

[to unbreakable]
So what if two men can't reproduce, not all relationships produce children. Are those relationships considered modern day genocide too?

Also, I don't agree with the comment you made about being able to voice your view point. Only in this situation though.
If you were sharing your p.o.v on something someone CHOSE to do that I see no problem with that, but (and i know nobody who isn't homosexual never believes this but..) homosexuality is NOT a choice. I am gay, and I didn't wake up one morning and say "hey I want to be the exact same thing that the majority of my race,country,etc. hates. In fact, from the time I became aware of what I was, I woke up saying "why do I have to be this, why can't I be 'normal'." Then I began to grow out of that old fashioned mind-state, that "everything different is wrong" mind-state, and I'm happy with exactly who I am. If I wasn't supposed to be this way, then I wouldn't be this way.

Another thing, how would being gay effect anyone but the two people in the relationship? Yeah you'd have to see two men holding hands, or kissing. But you see a man and a women doing that on practically every tv show in America, just because they're the same gender it becomes obscene?

Also, someone in your family is probably gay. I don't mean that as an insult or anything, but the odds of someone in your family being gay are pretty high. I'm willing to be everyone knows someone who is gay and they don't even realize it. Since not all gay men look alike. If you don't have a gay family member then you probably have a gay co-worker, a gay friend, someone you encounter on a daily basis. It's life.

One more thing, before I write a whole blog post in a comment haha,
I'm not for gay marriage either, only because I don't believe in marriage for myself [and marriage]. But just because I don't believe in it doesn't mean it should be illegal. If two people are in love and think marriage will work out for them, then they should be able to do whatever they want.



i've read both of their blogs... i like mr. JCal's blog more than unbreakable...
1. he's gay... i love gay men...
2. he's a cutie pie... i love gay men who are cutie pie's...
3. unbreakable's blog is very organized... and has structure... and while i do appreciate that fact... i have enough organization in my life... i have self diagnosed OCD... don't judge me... JCal's blog is all over the place (in a good way... plus... his blog has super sex mens on it...) ... just like mine... and i loves it!

but i do thank both of you all for taking out the time to read my foolishness... keep on reading... and i'll try to keep it interesting...

Nola*

just so you know... you hate whites and gays...

NO... I DO NOT HATE WHITES AND GAYS...

this titled stemmed from a conversation that occurred in my office...


man... we have some CHARACTERS where i work... it's always an interesting day in here...

but yesterday... a co-worker who i will name as Gerald... and another co-worker who i will call Mr. Vick had a very complex conversation...

Gerald... well... he's an interesting character... him and i went to the same high school... he became and alumnus waaaaay before i did... he's one of those... i love everything about black people... and black culture was perfect... before the evil white man came along and messed everything up type folk... but none the less i do thoroughly enjoy his conversation and point of views on issue of the African American culture...

anywho...

the conversation went in many directions... basically... Gerald stated that he can prove that white people are the reason that homosexuality was introduced to the African American community... that Africans lived in this perfect society... harmoniously (as i recall... we had slaves too...)... and there was not any gay like activity going on until... those blue eyed white devils came along... and showed the African men that their assholes where vagina's as well...

he also stated that gays are modern day genocide... because they cannot create a human life... and they are killing the African American community by spreading AIDS... (actually... i think down low brothers are doing that... and fried chicken...)

... i know... a lot to take in...

Mr. Vick and i then stated... you need to be careful with that... cause clearly you hate white people and gays... and you could quite possible pass that hate you have of these two groups of people to your kids...

for some odd reason... he feels as though he doesn't hate gay people... but clearly from the statements above... he does...

here's my stand on it...

people are people... i try my best not to see color... i know some bitch ass black people... and some bitch ass white people as well... if we take a moment we'd see that we're not that different... and people are just people... you have good ones and bad ones...

on gays...

now... i know being gay is a sin... (i believe in a higher being... i call him God...) but having premarital sex is a well... and cursing... and other random acts of foolishness i participate in on the weekends... so who am i to judge what someone else does with their life... as long as you're not hurting yourself and others... and you're happy and healthy... i could really care less what you do... mutha fucka's need to learn how to stay in their lane... if it doesn't affect you... the people you love... or your bankroll... why do give a fuck...

that just how i feel about it... but what does my over-confident ass know...


Nola*

apologies... don't come easy out of me...

when i first started working at the new gig... i had a guy approach me...

mind you... he didn't know me from "Eve"... but none the less... he asked me to come to his house for a "party"... i told him send me the info... and if i can make it... i'll let him know...

he indirectly asked me for my number... stating that he wasn't sure if the party was going down or not... and if it was he would call me... i declined in giving him my number... and his response was... "oh... well i'll catch up with you another time..." yeah... seemed shady to me...

so i asked a couple people around the office if the gentlemen had mention something about a "maybe" party to them... everyone looked at me and started laughing...

they were like... that was a "private party" invitation just for you maybe... he's tried that before with someone else in the office...

I WAS HEATED... i basically though he was going to try to get me to come to his house... get me drunk... and try to take advantage of me... (it's happened to a girlfriend of mine before... she got out of there ok... thank God...) but instead of coming to him and stating how i was offended by it... i stated it to others... and that wasn't fair to him...

so today... i had a talk with him... and apologized for how i had treated him... because i didn't give him a chance to tell his side of the story... he had already apologized previously to me about how i took the situation...

but yeah... that whole apology stuff... is hard... but once you make a mince... it feels a lot better...

being upset about silly stuff is kinda wack anyways...

Nola*

on some groupie ish...

OMG... OMG... OMMFG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

he read my blog... again... the TOP MACK NIGGA... i am sooooooooo freakin in love (but kinda like a hooker loves a pimp though... don't judge me...) with him... i'm just glad he's on the west coast... cause he'd be in a lot of trouble... well... i'd be in alot of trouble if he was on the east side... and yes... i'm actin like a groupie... again... don't judge me...

and... what don't i know about miss van!!!!

this one's for you boss ;)

BTW Boss... we need some of your fashion on the east coast babe...

Nola*

tell um how you feel tues...

so... here we go...

-dear love... fuck you and eat shit twice... i told your funky ass to stay away from me... now... cause of you... i'm thinking about getting married... go to hell...

-dear love... thanks for standing by me despite of myself... but go away... but not to far away... lol... (yep... i'm crazy...)

-look you fuckin fat monster... why the hell would you even think that i would go out with you... and i don't care what any of our co- workers say... you were going to try to get me to your house... get me drunk... and then put your sweaty body on top of mine... not today captain dill doe... not today...

- i miss Texas... but i gotta be movin on...

- Dear Chris Brown... run... run now...

- there are two girls in my office that are taking diet pills... and they haven't lost any weight... cause their still eating like the preggers... with twins...

- i'm totally in love with Adele... she's freakin awesome...

- ah... Young boi.... thanks for the movie... but i still don't like u like that anymore...

- someone slipped me a roufie this weekend... well at least i think they did... and i still can't eat anything... ugh!

i'm outtie...

Nola*

i know... it's been forevs'

hey fam... i know i haven't blogged in ages...

i've kinda been cleaning out my closet... and my head... and most of all my heart...

i came to realize that a lot of the relationships that i've been entertaining in my life have been in vain...

i guess subliminally... it showed how insecure i've become... i sometimes paint a picture that i'm this confident person... but most times i'm really not...

i realized that i kinda was defining my beauty... but the amount of guys i had after me...

but see now (well... i kinda already knew...) they wanted me for one thing... and i though that was ok... but now... i realize it wasn't... it took someone special to show me my worth... (and no... it wasn't Texas... sadly...)

i do sincerely apologize for being so distant from you guys... but i just had to step back for a sec... and get Nola (not my real name... lol) together... but i'm back... and i'll fill you guys in later on tonight about what's been going on...

Love you guys...

Nola*

and he said... i'm a dude in a skirt...

*congrats to the steelers!!!!! ain't nothing wrong with a young black coach winning the super bowl!*

one of my homies called me a dude in a skirt... that statement originated from a looong dialog him and i had this saturday... i kinda disagreed... but after much debate... i conceded... and agreed... that at this time... i am... a dude... in a skirt...

the feelings that came when the convo was over kinda sucked major... i'm single... (i know i shouldn't allow people to make me feel bad for how i'm living my life... as long as i'm happy and healthy... but sometimes i do...) so i feel like a should act accordingly... the main reason is that when i do get in a relationship... i don't want to feel like i've missed out on something... because the next relationship i get into that man... is gonna be... my husband...

as all of you know i have a mini smorgasbord of guys... some of them have caught feelings for me ... some are just j.o's... and some... i know we'll be life long friends...

but i kinda feel like i'm filling some type of void or trying to find some type of shallow validation within myself...

i don't feel empty... i don't feel insecure (well... not most of the time)... i just like having a few different dudes on my team... being that i'm single and all...

i just hope that the one that matters to me the most doesn't just see me as a dude in a skirt... but he sees the good in me too... the part that loves and adores him (i love u Texas...) ... and if he doesn't... then that kinda sucks... cause right now... i'm not changing... for nobody... now if someone wants to take this ride with me... come on... and buckle up... cause the ride is bumpy... and the AC isn't working... and i might need you to change the oil a few times on the way... but i promise you... whoever takes that ride with me... when we get to that destination... the reward will make that ride look like a walk in the park...

i just know... that one day... "the right person will still think the sun shines out my ass..." -juno

Nola*