“Love lasts when the relationship comes first.”

happy Tuesday to you all... (i always feel like i have to give an introduction to my blogs... but whatevs...) let's get to it...

so... i've been in a relationship for about 2 1/2 months... and one thing i've realized... it's def work... work that i love doing... not like a job... but more like a purpose or a calling in life... but none the less... it's work...

now mind you there are times where i find myself feeling that i don't want to do certain things (like sitting through 3 hrs of his basketball games... and 2 hrs of flag football games... not sleeping cause he wants to see me at 11:00 pm and i have to wake up at 4 am... etc... etc...) for the simple fact that i don't feel like it... but i have to... because i want to be in this relationship...

for example... i'm a part time photographer... i love, love, LOVE taking photos... yet... i hate sitting and editing them and giving my clients a finished product... if i don't do the editing... i can't intern be a photographer... well... can't call myself a good one... feel me...

i've never been great at relationships... but with each one i've gotten a little better (i hope i have at least...) now to get an honest answer you would have to ask Ny... but i would say i do pretty well with our relationship... at least that's what he and his friends tell me...

in many ways i'm still learning how to be HIS girlfriend... let me explain... i feel that you can never go into a relationship with a new person and expect to handle the relationship the same way you did with a previous partner (surprisingly... people always do this... those people include me...) it just won't work... they're two different people... just like with a job... if you use to be a security guard... and you land a job in IT... you can't think that shooting a customers computer screen is gonna fix their hard drive... just sayin... lol

now i'm not saying you have to change who you are as a person... but you do have to make a realistic decision on if you can do the work it take to be with that person... and make the things that are important to your boyfriend/girlfriend important to you...

it seems really easy to make Ny happy...because it's important to me... and he's pretty good at making me happy... but he drops the ball... a lot (not with cheating *i don't think at least* but with other little things... i.e. being on time... major one...) but he get's better and better at it everyday... and i'm willing to work with him and be patient with him... cause i guess that what love is...

i can't say right now that we're going to spend the rest of our lives together... but what i do know... is that i'm willing to put in the work... to see if we can...

Nola*